RELATIONSHIP

RELATIONSHIP

Relationship entails give and take, sow and reap, plant and harvest. A lasting, promising, productive and evergreen relationship is built on :

·    Honesty

·    Sacrifice

·    Humility

·    Discipline

·    Forgiveness

·    Unlimited tolerance

·    Vision

Honesty: is one of the seed of a fruitful relationship. If one learns how to acknowledge his or her inability to be perfect, he/she has started demonstrating honesty. This helps a lot to curb anger and unforgiveness. When, we are talking about imperfection. We are not looking at skills, talents, career and education but we are looking at virtues that have to do with human behaviors. Learn to be honest even when it hurts. If this is introduced at the beginning of a relationship, it tends to foster an indestructible relationship. Honesty means transparency in all that concerns you. This is the first door of real love.

Sacrifice: A relationship born of love must be sacrificial. Honesty as earlier mentioned is one of the sacrifices that must not be ignored. Note: it will cost you to be honest but also it pays to be honest. You must make your relationship the reason to let go of somethings. Again, sacrifice demands that from time to time one should examine his/her self in all honesty to figure out his/her weakness in order to improve on your relationship. One of the serious blunders you should not commit is thinking you are always right. No one exists like that. Everyone has some weaknesses and only when you are aware of this then you will realized that no one ought to destroy his/her relationship but build it via discipline.

Humility: It takes only humility for one to see his wrongs and admit. Humility will set you free to realizing that you are not the only one who do wrong even your partner may do wrong before the day runs out. It pricks your heart to think of how to get rid of some habits or behaviors that risked your relationship. It is humility that makes one values a relationship and work towards keeping it. Sometimes you remain foolish in order to make it thrive. But remember it not really foolishness rather, it is sowing time you shall surely reap in the long run. Just that it may not really happen in the direction you want it done sometimes.

Discipline:  Surrendering for a relationship means submission irrespective of your social status, educational background, social class etc. Reciprocating respect and honor requires a high level of discipline. A relationship conscious person will not be fast to take any decision without thorough examination because; this will help you to protect your relationship.

Forgiveness: the only time you will refuse to forgive another person is when you are very sure you never and will never need forgiveness regardless of the one to be forgiven. One of the biggest mistakes one will ever make is looking at the magnitude of the offence. No offence is too much to be forgiven. Here, you must live above your emotions. I mean you have to arrest your emotions. It hurts but the cure is forgiveness because there is no man or woman who will not offend you when becoming related.

Unlimited tolerance: This is another level of sacrifice. When you start feeling cheated, you are being fool, you are the one making it work, and his/she is not concerned, then you are at the verge of break up. This will certainly come up from time to time but your approach to it is what may mar or build your relationship. Always create conducive atmosphere to talk things out. I mean create a time to examine yourselves and make a check of your enemies to improve on your living together.

NOTE: Enemies of relationship appears/visit every relationship from time to time so be aware.

Vision: This is a road map to your peak. This must be clearly defined at the beginning of a relationship to create awareness. Vision serves as a reminder and a check to your journey.

Finally, arguments can not be avoided but if properly investigated, hubs that foster growth can be found in arguments. Do not argue to protect a personal interest but argue from the basis of truth. Here, you need a sound sense of judgement to destroy destructive arguments.